Tips to better your communication skills

Hey Strikers!

  Second, this one is primarily for personal relationships but get out of your head! I say this only because it's one of my biggest lessons that I've learned this past year. We have a tendency to allow our mind to take control, which means sometimes we over analyze everything and we longer listen to the other person. Not only does this prolong the situation but it escalates it because now the other person is losing patience.      For more business-like relationships, remember to always set expectations. Communicate what your service includes and what you expect from them in order for the partnership works smoothly. Not only does this ensure that they are aware of what they will receive but you can also get an impression on whether or not this is going to be a difficult client. If so, and you're not interested in the headaches, you can then dissolve the agreement to avoid trouble.     Be open and honest about your intentions. The more this happens the more trust you are building with the other person. Regardless of the personal or business relationship, people will only be a part of something they believe in and trust. It solidifies a foundation to keep them coming and feeling safe overall. It won't always be pretty or easy but think of this as personal growth. Remember, "Honesty is the BEST Policy." Non-verbal signals also fall into the concept of communication so, pay attention. Sometimes, you'll face people who won't speak up about what is bothering them and they bottle it inside. Hey, I do that sometimes too. It's not always piecing words together to explain what I feel and what I'm thinking. Here are a few to look out for:

• Folded arms in front of a person may mean they’re feeling defensive or closed off.

Lack of eye contact may mean they’re not really interested in what you’re saying, are ashamed of something, or find it difficult to talk about something.

A louder, more aggressive tone may mean the person is escalating the discussion and is becoming very emotionally involved. It might also suggest they feel like they’re not being heard or understood.

Someone who’s turned away from you when talking to you may mean disinterest or being closed off.

     If you have these tendencies, believe when I say, I'm guilty. I tend to be an emotional communicator and there have been times when I have done all of these. However, if you can understand these gestures and what it's telling you, the person doing it or the other side; you'll be able to rectify the situation and still allow them to calm down.    These are just a few ways to better your communications, if you are interested in learning more ways let me know your questions or let me know whether I should make another post on this topic. Also, Stay tuned during the next 30 days, I'm going to be doing a challenge of 30 questions to ask yourself about life. I'll share with you my answers and I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to hear yours! I'll also, make them into my stories on my Instagram so check them out and follow me! 

     Looks like I didn't have time to post this earlier.

However, this is a topic that I come across every day if not something I constantly try to refine.

     First, let me just say that communication can be difficult because we are all wired differently and sometimes we don't know how to approach certain personalities or situations. There will be times where it gets messy but the important part is to find common ground or maybe even learn a lesson for next time.

     There are going to be times where it just feels like you just want to find a book with all the answers. Whether its a personal relationship or business you must always stop and listen. This is the first thing to do if you want to in order to have a better understanding of it all. Most of the time the other person is sharing information with you about the situation and if you listen carefully you may also realize they are telling you how to fix it.

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